September 29, 2024: You are born by yourself, and you die by yourself, so why are you afraid of yourself?

Hey my Lovie's! How are you? Me? I'm in a little silly mood. So maybe you noticed, but I did not post yesterday… whoops. In reality, I was doing my hair all day and then I had to take my little brother home. We went to eat some food from K-pop ramen, I will be back sooner than later, mmhmm; then passed out after my night routine; That was my day yesterday. The hair did indeed turn out cute, I feel like I'm back to my African roots (a photo is down below). Hmm, today we are sleepy, but we went to the gym, it was absolutely delectable. I usually dislike hip thrusts but today, man today, it hit just right. I'm getting used to these new routines I placed myself in, which is amazing because now I can make room for new growth and learning of myself. This morning, someone really important to me brought up something I would really like to communicate to y’all. She was asking me to do something for her with her partner. I didn't mind as it did, in fact, include me in it, but then she said that her uncle helped her realize that her partner is making excuses when it comes to doing something for her(even though I told her many times). Now, ladies and gentlemen, I have never been in a relationship, so maybe my words don't have personal experience to you when I say this. What I do know is Your Worth. Ain't no way you are allowing your partner to make excuses every time he/she should be there for you, every time he/she should be meaningful with their giving, every time he/she should give you what you deserve. If y'all are long distance, and one has no transportation, you should put in the effort to go to them, no ifs, ands, or buts; especially when the one with no transportation still went to see you. When it comes to gift-giving, and your partner says they will do this/do that, and the result is a 5-minute run into Target… that's not even the bare minimum (she says flabbergasted, cause I am.)?!? When your partner is absent from the relationship, it's one-sided, yes they “might” love you, but obviously not enough to put you on the pedestal they themselves are on. You are an amazing person, with an astounding personality, beautiful energy and vibrations, and a gorgeous (men too, don't play) appearance; WHY IN THE UNIVERSE ARE YOU PUTTING UP WITH WHAT YOU DON'T DESERVE. Yes, you love them, no one said break up with them, but if you give, and they take, and you compromise and they take, then you ask and they give you an excuse… you just take it?? You keep compromising?? Stand on your ten toes and realize that you don't have to put up with that, especially when it's a landslide of give, give, give, take, give, give, especially if you're only staying because you don't want to be alone, or you don't want to start again, or even you're scared to be alone. You are never alone, you have yourself. When you stay in a relationship (friendship as well) because you are afraid of being alone, you need to leave it immediately, whether it's a break, whether it's the right person/wrong time, Leave. If you can't be alone, you can't be with anyone; Learn to know yourself, find out what you personally love and maybe dislike about yourself, get in tune with your own emotions, your own body, and your own mind; Lastly grow your self-acceptance so that you can fully love yourself. You are born by yourself, and you die by yourself, so why are you afraid of yourself? If you are stuck in this mindset, please do stay in this journey and let's grow ourselves together, as well as reach out to me, I will gladly help you find your way through this fog that you are lost or blinded too. I'm not saying anything on anyone's relationships, as I do not know your story, but as I had said in my last blog post, If I can recognize you receiving less than you deserve, less than your worth, and then someone else as well has said something about it; read into it, see if you can notice it for yourself and take your first step in the right direction, no matter what direction that is for you. To end this off; The only Love you shall be desperate/eager for is your own. When you love yourself, a toxic or more one-sided relationship would never start. As you know your worth, you will know what you deserve, and you will know what respect shall be given to you. Your boundaries that you set in place will never be crossed, and if they dare, you know they don't deserve your love, time, and attention no more; especially if you had given them a warning. I will come back to this post when I fall in love and find out if single grace knows what she's talking about( I know i do, but just in case). I love you so much! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and you're in mine. Grand Rising! Sweet Dreams! Or Good Afternoon! Muah

Words to know

~ Flabbergasted- adj.) As if struck dumb with astonishment and surprise.

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My Answer: What led to me starting this Blog was wanting to help those, especially my age, to understand there is no rush, that you don't need to have it all figured out, and that you're not alone. With society today it's becoming the norm to be carbon copies of each other, and to not have an authentic personality and way of living, I would love to help others realize they do not need to conform to it, and especially do not need no 9-5 to live their life. You can read why I started this journey on my blog post: My Story: The Start of the Beginning. I love you fellow Goddess/ God!